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The posuk says ויבא גם אל רחל ויאהב גם את רחל מלאה and he married Rochel too and he loved also Rochel more than Leah.
The posuk is trying to say that Yaakov loved Rochel more than Leah. So where does the work גם fit in, which implies that he also loved Rochel? It should have just said that he loved Rochel more than Leah.
Answers the אמרי שפר that the extra word is telling us that besides the natural love he felt for Rochel because she was beautiful, he now had more reason to love her. When he saw that she gave the סימנים over to Leah just so that she shouldn't be embarrassed, showed him how sensitive she was to other people's feelings. So from Leah he came to love Rochel even more.
When Yaakov originally came to the well he asked the shepherds why they were all there so early. Rashi says he was saying to them, if you work for someone you're not doing your job. If it's your own animals, they still need to eat. They answered that they had to wait until all the shepherds come because they couldn't lift the rock. Imagine a stranger comes to town, and starts questioning how you conduct your business. Most people wouldn't even give him the time of day. However, they start answering him & explaining their actions. Why is that? For when he first came, he talked to them like one who cares. He called them אחי - my brothers, & talked nicely, so they immediately saw that he had only their best interests at heart & that he genuinely cared about them so they explained to him what was going on.
If you look later in the parsha, after Leah had four sons & Rochel didn't have any, she says to Yaakov, "Give me children - if not I am dead." What does Yaakov say instead of the caring sympathetic response one would expect? He gets angry & says, am I instead of GD Who withheld from you children?
How does this fit in to his character trait of caring and kindness and his love for her?
Ramban takes the question a step further, and says according to Rashi, Yaakov tells her you want me to act like my father & pray for you? My father didn't either have children, whereas I have.
Asks the Ramban don't tzadikkim daven for other people even if they themselves don't need it? Of course they do! So why wouldn't he daven for her?
Maybe we understand this based on how the אור החיים explains why yaakov got angry. He says that he got angry because rochel said מתה אנכי, that she would die, for when tzadikkim say something it has an effect. He was upset that she ever uttered those words, because of his great love for her, he didn't want her cursing herself therefore he got angry. To answer the Ramban's question perhaps the reason he said that he wouldn't daven for her was because he knew that the tefillos of the one who needs it are much greater than if one prays for someone else & being that he had children his tefilos wouldn't be as great as hers. Therefore, it was this same love & caring that made him act seemingly irrational, in order to get her to daven for herself which would bring out the desired result. Teaching us how careful we have to be not to let our love cloud our judgment, and always act in the real best interest of those that we care about, no matter how hurtful it may seem, to bring out the best results!